Reflections Of Motherhood We asked moms if they could go back to before their first baby, what would they tell themselves. these are their answers. everyone in the video is a mom brought to you by nummies maternity bras ...
During your third trimester did you panic about upcoming motherhood? How did you cope?
I am in my third trimester and on bedrest.It has been a rough pregnancy and for the most part I have just wanted my twin girls to arrive as safetly and soon as possible.Well today I was having a day of wishing my pregnancy was just about over when it hit me. I am going to be a mother once they are here. What the heck was I thinking. I'm not old enough to be someones mother I am almost 30 so logically I know this doesn't make a lot of sense .I was looking in the mirror and my thoughts were wow can I back out now? I have changed my mind about all this.My pregnancy was planned and wanted and I know the feelings I am having are probably hormones and stress. Did anyone else have similar feelings? How long did they last? Did you do anything that made it easier to cope? When your baby arrived did you find your fears unfounded?Any advice or encouragement would be helpful.
Teen mother's dilemma: motherhood and school. Do you have advice or insight?
This is a super long post but I promise there is a point to it in the end. I don't know if this is the right category. All I want is the perspective of people who already have children and have taken care of them, gone to work,stayed at home or just made an important decision about who would take care of their child. I'm very conflicted about the whole thing and time is ticking.My boyfriend and I are trying to make up our minds about how we are going to mix school with parenthood. My boyfriend was allowed to take summer courses and will be graduating a year ahead of his class. His grades are perfection, so he was given that option. Mine are...not so great. I have two options. I can start grade 11 and finish high school the traditional way or drop out at work in getting a GED. I am aiming for an associates degree but first I would like to concentrate on our daughter, and hopefully continue with my education when our situation is a little brighter. N my boyfriend worries that I won't return to school at all if I drop out, and I would only have the GED or nothing at all. He knows school isn't my forte. If I really want to, he offered to help me pay for college courses if I go right into it after getting the GED. What he isn't seeing is that this would take away lots of my time and energy which I think should be spent on our baby. She'll be here in August. So I'm almost sure I will not return to school this fall. N doesn't realize that we don't have someone reliable to watch our baby while if I'm gone. He lives in a group home and he isn't allowed to have the baby there. Being foster children, our parents are obviously not an option. I haven't even told my dad I'm pregnant. He is a dangerous kind of crazy. I don't trust my foster parents enough to leave my daughter with them. They seem a little off and they can be very mean and controlling when they are angry. N asked his boss' wife Mrs. L if she could watch baby girl should I decide to join a study group for GED and eventually college or return to high school. She watches her two grandkids while her son and his wife work. N likes the family a lot and trusts them. I don't know them that well but they seem very nice. Particularly because she accepted to watch baby girl for a ridiculous small fee and if N does little things to fix her yard on Sundays. He thinks we have it figured out and I should continue with school one way or the other.To me it seems more common sense to postpone college and just be with baby girl. Seems so cruel to leave her for hours every day, either to take GED classes college next semester or go to high school. I know I haven't been the most dedicated student but I don t want to stay at home out of laziness. I just want to be the one to take care of my baby and I want her to know me and trust me. It s not like I want to be a high school dropout my whole life and live on minimum wage in crappy jobs from here to eternity but the baby should come first. Besides, my caseworker says I shouldn t leave my baby with a stranger, even if she is a nice stranger, though she insists I leave baby girl with my foster parents and doesn t understand that I don t trust them. I can see why I shouldn t just leave our baby with Mrs. L. no matter how nice and lovely her family is. If something bad happens to baby girl while I m in college, school or whatever I would never forgive myself. N is right in thinking that we'll have to figure something out regardless of my decision because I'll need to go back to work sooner or later. I want to help N save money so we can move out sooner rather than later. But shouldn't I be with our baby at least for her first few months? What should I do?
Engaged, Pregnant...Not happy about motherhood at all! Advice please?
I found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago. I told my fiance' and he wanted to keep the baby, but said he would support me whatever I decided to do. I called for an abortion appointment. I'm 22, about to graduate college and don't know what I want to do with my life yet, and before I found out I was pregnant I was considering breaking things off with my fiance' because I was unhappy with him. He's been good, but I've had trouble getting over his past infidelity that I found out about. I just feel different about him since then, although I do love him. Couple that with the fact that he went back on " being supportive of me what ever I decide to do" and said he would leave me if I did have an abortion.I told my mom, a judgemental " Christian" woman, and she told me, a grown woman, that I couldn't " murder my child." This pregnancy has put a strain on my relationship with my fiance. I have no sex drive and he is sexually frustrated all the time. And when he is " frustrated" he becomes a jerk to me. So I decided to keep the baby to term. Now I feel nothing but regret that I told my fiance and I told my mother and didn't just go through with the abortion on my own. I cry all the time, I'm depressed and I just don't know what to do.I've considered adoption but I know my mother or fiance wouldn't all that. I just wish they would stay the fuck out of my life and let me make my own damn decisions.Any advice please? I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life before, now I feel all the decisions have been made for me already.Also, I was on birthcontrol. The pill LoEstrin24.
Why do some mothers let motherhood monopolize every aspect of their lives?
I have a hard time being friends with other mothers because it seems like all they want to to talk about 100 % of the time is something child related whether it be making your own organic baby food or telling me every boring mundane aspect of their childrens' lives and showing me 1,000 not particularly interesting photos of their kids. I also feel like they judge me for not breastfeeding, not using cloth diapers, etc and they bring these topics up and make me defend myself.And when the children are present ... wow it's like they have to let the kid be center of attention ALL the time. You can't go anywhere with these mothers when they bring their children because they are always making the child sing a song or do a dance or even finding it adorable when the kid is being ill behaved. I can take my daughter to lunch or dinner where she is the only child present and she knows to not interrupt the conversation and show out and try to be the center of attention all the time. If she actually has something worth showing off or a story she wants to tell, I don't mind letting her but I don't coax her to sing 50 different songs for people I know don't really care when she would be just as happy coloring in her book and eating her lunch. The worst part is that a lot of my friends who don't have children are hesitant to socialize with mothers because they have experienced so many mothers with baby addled brains and spoilt, entitled children. I have to practically beg a childless friend to spend time with me and prove that we're not like that.They're all people I went to high school and college with, except for a couple who are wives of men I work with and their husbands though we should hang out.
Stories about motherhood?
so im 14 years old and not im not in an unplanned pregnancy that's not my point in this i really can't wait to be older so i can start a family and what not. i really love children and my biggest ambition is to be a great mother. i was wondering if any moms out there had some interesting, insightful, inspiring, or really any good stories about just being a parent.
Hello beautiful ladies of motherhood! Please answer! Stop and read (sorry for the length)?
My last period started on nov. 23. it ended i think on nov. 26th. I had sex dec. 4th. He pulled out. But i know pre cum can get people pregnant. I was ovulating on the 7th. sperm lives for 3 5 days so do i have a high chance of being pregnant? I have these symptoms bloating and random short pains cramping in uterus 10 days late for my period. hungry or not hungry b c food sounds gross tired a little more than normal lower back pains sometimes some headaches. i feel nauseated sometimes but dont throw up yet.I took a hpt a few days ago and should i wait a couple weeks now? Some women have low hcg levels. Mine might be rising slowly. I would be 5 weeks 4 days today OR the fetus is 4 weeks old today
I freaking hate motherhood?
I LOVE my child, but I freaking hate my life right now. On the outside it all looks good, but every day I hate it. I have good moments, but the terrible moments outweigh the good right now. My baby is screaming next to me right now because she is refusing to eat ANYTHING I give her and I just can't handle it anymore. I had to set her down and let her cry. My husband and I planned this child. I hate that birthing classes prepare a mom for 1 day but not a lifetime of motherhood. I'm really tired of the battles day in and day out, I don't have a freaking life. I can't even clean my house properly and my husband complains about the way I do laundry, or the way I walk, or that I don't eat the leftoevers in the fridge and I'm just too angry and depressed anymore to do anything right. I'm ranting, but I need help. I told my husband that I am really struggling and he asked what he can do and I told him...still nothing is making me feel any better. Not to mention everyone close to me is telling me that my kid isn't eating enough...well you people freaking feed her if you don't think she's getting what she needs. I really think something is wrong with me, but I'm afraid to get professional help.I'm not the swearing type, rarely have ever done so. But lately I drop even the worst words like its nothing. So angry all the time. This isnt the real me.
Quotes about motherhood/student?
I am designing a t shirt for a student parent group and am trying to find a quote to put on the back. I really cannot think of any fitting ones. A quote that either says something about being a parent and a student, or basically how hard work and parenting can only be done by strong women.. blah blah blah .That kind of thing, but definately not in those words. Or just something that fits the challenge and rewards a mother goes through while being in school and a parent.Any good quotes in mind?
How does motherhood change women?
I'm 22 and I can't imagine myself as a mother, at least not in the near future. I'm afraid that I won't be a good one to my kids.Not physical changes I mean, like changes in personality and emotions.Thank you in advance, mothers out there.
Normal? Also, when did you start enjoying motherhood?
Don't get me wrong, I love my child to death. I have the normal mothering instincts, it tears me up to hear my daughter cry and I do everything I can for her. But is it normal to be mourning the 'death' of the 'old you' once you have your first child? My daughter is two months old now and I feel like I don't physically recognize myself I know I'll eventually get back into shape but still I don't have time to enjoy a lot of the things I used to love, I see some things differently than I used to...and really, I'm having trouble with all of these things on top of the baby adjustments that I was expecting. I miss a lot of things about the 'old me'. I really feel like someone myself has sort of died. Which brings up another question, though I have periods of feeling a burst of love when my daughter smiles etc, everything also feels kind of hard. When did you start to REALLY enjoy motherhood? When did things start feeling normal?
When's it going to be my turn at motherhood?
I have been trying for such a long, long time to conceive almost 9 years . my husband and i are guardians of his 12 yr old half sister. she's a special needs child she has epilepsy, MR and ADHD. but it's not the same as having my own child , having her here feels like a secondary prize or something why because she NOT my child she's my sister in law. More than anything in the world, I want to be a mother. It seems like everytime I turn around, my friends are celebrating pregnancies. While I am happy for them, it's killing me inside. it's so difficult. I've been to a fertility specialist, tried everything anf had every kind of treatment but i'm tired of being poked and prodded. I'm wondering when it might be time to give up trying to conceive.every time there is another expecting mother in my life I almost feel as if her announcement is going to push me off the edge. It's not that I'm not happy for her or don't like her, for some reason it is just that it's hitting closer to home. I did not expect the price of motherhood to need every last drop of strength I posses and then some. Hope is one of those things that is hard to catch right at the moment. but it's just so hard. How do I keep my faith?thank you all your encouragement is Very Uplifting and VERY Appreciated
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